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What if your husband was so happy to have a stay-at-home wife that he would do anything in his power to help make it happen?
In most cases it’s possible not only to convince your husband to let you stay home.
But to get him to love it.
I’m talking about a man who thinks your role as a mom and wife is more important than anything else you could be doing with your time.
A man who is willing to work two jobs so that you don’t have to leave the home to work.
A man who sees his friends taking vacations and buying new cars, but he doesn’t get envious, because he thinks that what he has in you is so much more valuable than anything money can buy.
I’m going to share 7 things you can start doing right now to get your husband to let you stay home and love it!
1. Whatever you do, do not complain about your housework or the kids.
If you want the man to be happy that you are staying home, then you need to be happy that you are staying home.
After all, you are asking him to make sacrifices so that you can stay home instead of working.
If he sees that his sacrifices are not making the woman he loves happy, it would be much easier to have a wife who is not complaining and who is also bringing in an income.
So get out of the habit of complaining.
Put on your rose-colored glasses, pray for joy, be thankful in all things, and, when you simply must complain, don’t do it to him!
2. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate him.
It is easier to do any work when you know that someone appreciates what you are doing.
That thank you from your husband when you make his favorite meal keeps you chopping through nap time instead of resting.
Tell him sincerely and often that you are grateful that he works so hard so that you can be home with the kids.
It will keep a smile on his face when the days are long and hard and inspire him to do without when it would be easier to send you back to work.
3. Be a good steward of his money if you want him to let you stay home with no hesitation.
He will be happier to go to work for the family when he sees that you are using his contributions wisely.
And not taking his labor for granted.
Not convinced? Think about how you feel when someone throws a towel on the floor of the bathroom that you just cleaned.
If you’re anything like me, you probably feel like your family doesn’t value the time you spent to clean.
And you may have a bad attitude about doing those chores in the future.
It’s so much easier to work with a joyful heart when you don’t feel that your family is squandering your labors.
4. Find a way to make some money from home.
If you can find a way to earn even a small income from home, your husband will not feel that all of the pressure is on him.
You would be surprised at what a difference if will make for you to earn even enough to cover your family’s groceries each week.
Put the word out that you are interested in babysitting, tutoring, picking up groceries or working online.
When you look, God has a way of placing opportunities in your path that you would never have seen otherwise.
5. Spend time with other couples that have a similar dynamic.
Men are naturally competitive.
If you spend time with other couples who make a lot of money because they both work, he will be more likely to want that lifestyle for himself.
If, however, you spend time with other couples where the wife stays home, he will be likely to aim to provide his own family with that same luxury.
Spending time with friends who are a one-income family can also help you both to come up with new ways to save, to earn, and to make it work for you.
6. Don’t slack on your chores.
Yes, the primary reason for your husband to let you stay home is to care for your kids.
But another reason you are staying home is so that someone can be there to take care of the home.
Does your husband return after work to find that you are rushing to get dinner on the table?
Or are you still up doing laundry after the kids are in bed?
Then it is natural for him to wonder what was going on all day while he was at work.
Do your best to get the must-dos done, even when it’s hard.
7. Do the extra things that you wouldn’t be able to do if you worked outside of the home.
Make his favorite breakfast on weekdays mornings.
Surprise him with a candlelight dinner now and then.
Take care of a chore that he normally loathes doing simply because you are home and you can.
I’m sure you can be creative with ways to make your own husband happy.
Things that you wouldn’t be able to pull off if you had to get to work each morning.
Make them happen from time to time and he will want to keep you right there.
Make Him Want It
You can cultivate a marriage where your husband not only allows you to stay home, but actually prefers it.
Imagine your husband bragging to his friends and family.
Sharing that since you stopped working outside of the home, life has never been better.
What steps can you implement today to nip his worries in the bud?
And make him a bugger advocate for your homemaking career than you are yourself?
Let us know in the comments!