How To Make New Friends As A Stay-At-Home Mom

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What if you had a close friend nearby who understood exactly what you were going through as a stay-at-home mom? 

How would that change your day-to-day life mama? 

Would you feel more refreshed after a playdate with some sympathetic company? 

Might your husband come home to a happier wife? 

And would your kids notice the stress lifted from your shoulders that comes from simply having another soul to confide in, share joys with and feel community with?

It’s not always to make`new friends as a mom. 

The places that most new friends are made just aren’t a part of our lives anymore as we settle into married motherhood. 

Work. 

Happy hour. 

The gym.

But even though making new friends looks different in this season of life, it is still very much possible, mama.

5 Ways To Make New Friends As A Mom

1. Get Involved At Church

Church is a great place to meet not only other moms, but other moms whose families share the same values as yours. 

If you aren’t members of a church, now is the time to find the right fit and join! 

Once you are a member, find out what ministries you can become involved in, and dive in head first. 

Yes, you might find that you need to step back eventually to find your groove, but if you have to overdo something, serving God is the best thing to overdo. 

Don’t limit yourself to ministries and volunteer positions that you are naturally interested in. 

If you are willing to expand your horizons and take on some responsibilities that call on you to step outside of your comfort zone, you may learn some new skills as well as make some new friends.

2. Become A Soccer Mom

Or a karate mom, football mom or dance mom. 

The point is to be present and involved with the activities that your children participate in. 

Does your daughter’s dance studio need an adult to play a part in an upcoming production? 

Sign yourself up! 

Did the town soccer league send an email asking for volunteers to coach? 

Then tie on those trainers and head to the field! 

The further outside of your comfort zone you are willing to travel, the more people you will meet. 

And the people that you do meet will be mamas who have just as much time and interest in their kids as you do.

3. Join Community Event Committees 

Search the Facebook pages of events that groups put on in your town. 

Then contact the admins of those pages and ask how you can get involved in planning the next event. 

Our town has committees that host events around Halloween and Independence Day, and there is more than enough work to go around to every mom who is willing to lend a hand. 

If you live in a lake community or a community with a homeowners’ association or any sort of membership, there is a good chance that you can find events to help organize there as well. 

You will meet other mamas who are committed to making their communities better places for their families, and they just may inspire you to become a better version of yourself too!

4. Support A Cause

Find a cause that you care about, and then find a group that supports it to donate your time to. 

And there are plenty. 

Whether you are interested in volunteering at a hospice or nursing home, a veteran’s charity or a home for pregnant teens who choose to continue their pregnancies, there is a place for you to do good works that matter. 

You will be spending the time that God gave you wisely as well as meeting other women who share the same values. 

Many charities will even help you find a way to volunteer with your children.

5. Put Yourself Out There

Anytime you have the opportunity to be social, go a little bit further than you are comfortable with. 

Think about the people you know who seem to know everyone and find friends everywhere they go. 

Chances are that they take the time to speak to people they know whenever they see them, introduce themselves to new people, and initiate plans to socialize. 

So introduce yourself to the other parents on your daughter’s basketball team. 

Exchange numbers with the mom you hit it off with at the playground and text to make plans for another playdate. 

And seek out the woman you chat with on the Sunday school pick-up line to ask how her vacation went. 

You don’t have to go from wallflower to Miss Congeniality overnight. 

But you do have to take deliberate action to be more social. 

And you will see results.

Finding Balance To Be More Than Mom

Our families are, and should remain, the most important things.

But in order to be our best selves and to have anything to give, friendships are necessary too.

Our girlfriends refresh and inspire us.

And they counsel and encourage us.

If making new friends as a stay-at-home mama hasn’t come easy to you, take action now.

You’ll be glad for girlfriends to confide in the next time your mother-in-law confides her opinion on homeschooling for the tenth time this year.

So how about it?

Will you sign up to work in the church nursery?

Or call up that veteran’s charity you’ve been meaning to volunteer at?

Which step can you implement this week mama?